Atila’s Studio
This is where I make things and let people see the making, low pressure, long-form, and real.
Borderline Successful: Hysterectomies and Why You Need to Back the Fuck Up
Content warning: Heavy menstrual bleeding, medical trauma and stress, surgery, reproductive health, medical racism, reference to historical involuntary sterilization. I had a period that lasted 26 days. It ended with
Content warning: Heavy menstrual bleeding, medical trauma and stress, surgery, reproductive health, medical racism, reference to historical involuntary sterilization. I had a period that lasted 26 days. It ended with emergency surgery to remove a fibroid from my womb. Before that, I spent weeks bleeding, calling doctors, forcing myself into
Borderline Successful: Everyone Wants a Bite
Content note: This post discusses alcohol and drug use, explicit sexual activity, questions of consent, and feeling used after a sexual encounter. This summer, I was involved with someone I’ll
Content note: This post discusses alcohol and drug use, explicit sexual activity, questions of consent, and feeling used after a sexual encounter. This summer, I was involved with someone I’ll call G for about six weeks. The connection was supposed to be casual, friends first. It quickly became too intimate,
Borderline Successful: Starter Soulmate
Content note: This one is about dating, sex, rejection, and getting in your feelings about all of it.
Content note: This one is about dating, sex, rejection, and getting in your feelings about all of it.
Borderline Successful: I’m Baby
Content warning: trauma, sexuality, kink/BDSM dynamics, age-gap relationship dynamics, dissociation, and blurred boundaries around care, submission, and control.
Content warning: trauma, sexuality, kink/BDSM dynamics, age-gap relationship dynamics, dissociation, and blurred boundaries around care, submission, and control.
Borderline Successful: Monogamy, Now?
Content warning: relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, sex/dating, nonmonogamy, attachment insecurity, and struggles with self-worth.
Content warning: relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, sex/dating, nonmonogamy, attachment insecurity, and struggles with self-worth.
Borderline Successful: Better On My Back
Content warning: dating fatigue, sex, stigma, emotional overwhelm, mental health spirals, rejection sensitivity, and feeling reduced to your body. Moon: Gemini Sun: Cancer
Content warning: dating fatigue, sex, stigma, emotional overwhelm, mental health spirals, rejection sensitivity, and feeling reduced to your body. Moon: Gemini Sun: Cancer
Borderline Successful: Guessing Instead of Asking (Unsent Notes, 2022–2023)
This post is a collection of old, unsent phone notes from the same relationship, written between 2022 and 2023. They follow a months-long cycle of thoughts I could have shared
This post is a collection of old, unsent phone notes from the same relationship, written between 2022 and 2023. They follow a months-long cycle of thoughts I could have shared with my partner. These notes show how I tried to figure out closeness by guessing and reading into things, instead
Borderline Successful: Letting People Love Me
Content warning and context: this post discusses sex, nudity, body image after major body changes, BPD disclosure, fear around intimacy, and old patterns of confusing being wanted, hunted, or hurt
Content warning and context: this post discusses sex, nudity, body image after major body changes, BPD disclosure, fear around intimacy, and old patterns of confusing being wanted, hunted, or hurt with being loved. It’s exhausting, watching someone fall in love with your public-facing self: the lilt in my voice; confidence
Borderline Successful: Recovery, in public (Did you eat today?)
Content warning: eating disorder / disordered eating (discussion of food habits, body image, and recovery). contextual note: I had a gastric sleeve (weight loss surgery) in 2019. In 2022, I
Content warning: eating disorder / disordered eating (discussion of food habits, body image, and recovery). contextual note: I had a gastric sleeve (weight loss surgery) in 2019. In 2022, I was diagnosed with anorexia. I still technically carry that diagnosis. What did you have for lunch today?
Borderline Successful: Reopening the Project
I’m reopening Borderline Successful. Quick hello If you’re new here, hi. If you’ve been around before, hi again.
I’m reopening Borderline Successful. Quick hello If you’re new here, hi. If you’ve been around before, hi again.